Christians: It’s OK to be ‘real’

Living on Purpose

I realize that church leaders must be real with their feelings because if they did not come through our personalities, we would all seem very robotic.

But at the same time, many feel pressure to be excited and happy all the time because they want to keep everyone pumped up, and fear if they do not demonstrate a positive image they will appear weak and discouraging.

Learning how to be “real” is like walking an emotional tight wire, and as fellow Christians we need to remember that we all live in human housing.

The role of a spiritual leader is not easy and deserves more prayer and less criticism.

I recall when I was younger, I was invited to attend a meeting of pastors that were discussing the trials and challenges of ministry, and instead of being compassionate, I was disappointed because they were not wearing their superhero capes.

I listened as these warriors shared their burdens and worries and questions about church growth and how to get people to catch their vision.

As they talked about problems with everything from excessive debt to people being unfaithful, I sensed a heaviness of negativity and defeat.

When it was over, I was not inspired or encouraged, yet here I was surrounded by those who fight on the front line and are filled with God’s power and faith.

I felt there had been a mistake because I thought I was going to a celebration of spiritual victory with the generals, but instead I had been sitting in on a religious pity party. I was thinking to myself, that everyone knows there are problems in the churches and that pastors are supposed to have the answers.

I failed to realize that Elijahs also need places to vent their frustrations and weaknesses and a safe environment with those who understand what they are going through.

They hold people’s hands who are passing on to the next life. They counsel and try to help when people make a huge mess of their lives and they feel compelled to go inside the prisons to preach the kingdom message. They carry the worries and burdens that only God knows because many people have shared their deepest secrets with them and trust them to keep it confidential.

While none of us, including pastors, are to dwell in a world of sadness and disappointment, let us also remember that it’s OK to be honest with the ones we trust and who care for our souls. It’s alright for overcomers to carry burdens, but they also learn to leave those burdens at the cross as they are very heavy and can hinder our joy and peace.

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